Sunday, November 18, 2007

After you read this, hit delete...
Current mood: good

Football makes sense to me. Each quarter, 15 minutes. 1st down, ten yards. Extra point? Sailing through the uprights, or not. The goal, touchdown. As many as you can make. Two point conversion. Defending your goal...there really are not many grey areas. Sure, there are moments in the game when I am sloshing beer all over myself from gesticulating at the screen..."what the HELL was THAT?" But for the most part, I get it. I may not LIKE it, but I get it.
What I don't get is you. And what you fail to understand, and have probably failed to see the entire time, is that YOU is always collective. Until you single yourself out. Until I realize that you are categorizing me with the sum of all the female parts that you have come to know. That you are assuming, judging, and dismissing all in one fell swoop of rationale..."I've been through this before, I know what this girl, while never having been in any similar situation with her specifically, is going to do, because she is a GIRL."
Good call.
I sit back and watch. And see the inaction, the nonchalance, the ridiculously inadequate game, and I laugh. Now I laugh. It hasn't always ended in laughter. But now, I ruminate for a good five minutes, lick my finger and tick the air. I check myself for bruises and gashes and once I see that the damage is minimal, I turn in for a good night of sleep, because I know that the bruises will quickly fade and the memories will be sweet. Cute, if you will. A little "awwww" with a nice pat on the head kind of cute.

Since you don't know me, here's what you missed. And here's what might actually apply universally to the next girl you judge "unworthy" of your...time? Whatever.

Honey, I've been through too much in my life to get all bent b/c you don't think you can hang. The Dixie Chicks song "Let 'Er Rip" jumps readily to mind here. There is nothing you are going to lose by being honest with me. Having what seems to be a good day; kissing me like it really means something on a street corner, and then turning around the next day and acting like you could give a fuck less is not being honest. It's being a coward. Wishy washy is the worst trait in a man, and I don't have the grace to tolerate it.
You don't like? I understand. And I don't fault you for that. What I do fault you for is the lack of...common courtesy, basically. Especially when your claim to fame is being a good guy. And I believe, ironic as it may be, that you are a good one. A very good one. And I know good guys. They are few and far between, but they define good. Not just think about it when they are bored with what society is throwing in their lap.
This is where you shake your head and go "whoa. Crazy." Or, "dodged that bullet." Whatever you're thinking...the point is, I don't care anymore. I did. I really did. But I've gone from "interested in the ways of your mind" to "I can't even fathom what the hell is going on in there." And I bear no ill will. I just cannot even begin to wrap my head around your behavior, and I haven't gotten enough positive feedback to be patient. So I am making the decision, and I am done.

Bless.